Protection

I see it in healers, in readers, and in empaths who have never healed anyone in their lives. They sit with someone who is struggling, they care, and they come away feeling drained and burdened by whatever is going on in that person's life. They have soaked it up, the way a sponge soaks up whatever it is put down in.

Protection is how you stop being the sponge. It means keeping your own energy where it belongs, which is in you, and keeping other people's where it belongs, which is with them.

Why sensitive people soak it up

Two things happen to the sponge, and they usually happen together.

The first is that you are giving your own energy away. It flows out of you to whoever is near, which makes them feel better and leaves you with less.

The second is that you are taking their negativity on board. You walk away carrying their challenges on top of your own.

Both come from the same place. When you care about someone, you connect with them from your heart chakra, because that is where caring and love come from. It is a natural response and almost everyone does it. It also opens you up in both directions at once.

The first protection: come through the crown

The most important protection I teach is also the simplest to describe. Instead of connecting from your heart, let energy come in through your crown, from above you, and pass through you to the other person.

When you do, you connect to universal energy and your own stops flowing away from you. You can observe what is going on with the person without taking it on. And because the energy is coming through you rather than out of you, you get as much of it as they do. You walk away feeling better than when you arrived.

Expect head spins at first. They are normal and they pass. The Healing Through the Crown page goes into it fully, and it applies to every kind of work with people, reading as much as healing.

Fill your own battery first

We are taught from childhood to give. There are almost no lessons in looking after yourself, and most people only reach out when they are already in crisis, by which point recovery can take years.

You cannot give to others if you have flattened your own battery. Work on loving yourself so that you give to yourself before you give to anyone else. This is balance in how you approach life, and balance is never selfish. Taking care of you first means your battery is always topped up, and that is what lets you give unconditionally.

Notice the drop

Once you can feel your own energy, and the Body Energy page shows you how, you can also feel it leaving. You will notice the drop as it happens rather than discovering it in the car on the way home. That awareness is most of the cure. You cannot protect something you cannot feel.

It also helps to notice what you spend your days soaking in. Whatever you have an abundance of around you, you are bathing in, people, places, noise, moods. Notice what feeds you and what drains you, and spend more of your time with the first. The Energy Detox post puts it in three lines.

Before and after the work

Ground, every day, and especially when you read for people, heal, or do mediumship. Anyone on a spiritual path comes across energy that is not theirs, and if it is never discharged it builds up. The Grounding page has the methods. Washing your hands and feet before you sit, from the Water Energy page, does the same job on a smaller scale.

Before you meditate to meet your guides, or sit down to do automatic writing, or begin any work where you are opening up, go through your rituals of cleansing and protection first. Whatever form yours take, do them every time. Your guides will be your protectors too, when you ask them for it.

Surround yourself with white light. See it all the way around you. Pink works very well too.

The mirror egg

Sometimes you need to protect yourself from one particular person's energy. This method takes a few minutes.

Visualise the person you want to block from your life. In that picture, imagine them inside an egg, and imagine that the inside of the egg is a mirror. Wherever they look, they can only see themselves. For an extra layer, see the outside of the egg as a mirror too.

That is all there is to it.

Be clear about your intent. It is for your own protection. You should never wish anything negative on the other person.

If you feel someone means you harm, the freezer method on the Clearing Negative Energy page works on the same principle.

When you forget everything

There will be a moment when you find yourself in a heavy situation and cannot remember a single technique on this page.

Ask for help and protection. In your head or out loud, it makes no difference. What answers is universe energy of complete unconditional love.

The protection people forget

Never allow a spirit to attach to you. Never ask one to, and never do it to see what happens. A spirit that has your highest good at heart will only ever want to pass on information. It will never attach to you. If you think one has, do not try to live with it. Get help from someone experienced in breaking attachments.

And the deepest protection of all is love. Living in fear does not protect you completely. Living in love protects you far better, and it protects the people you love far better too.

Beside medical care

Protection is energy work, and energy work sits beside medical care, never in place of it. If you are exhausted all the time, see your doctor as well as looking at your energy. Both can be true at once.

Where this leads

Being sensitive is a gift. The work on this page is what lets you keep it without being worn down by it. The Empathy page in Your Abilities is about where that sensitivity can grow.

If you would like this read against your own chart, my readings are here.