Phone face up, or face down

You sit down at a cafe, or at your own kitchen table, and you put your phone down.

Which way up?

And there is a third tribe here, the ones who never put it on the table at all, because it stays in the pocket or the bag.

The face down people are the boundary people. Turning it over is a small physical act that says the thing in front of me gets my attention. They do not want to see the screen light up, because they know exactly what happens next.

The face up people are the available people. Very often they are the ones somebody depends on. The parent, the carer, the person on call, the one running a business that does not stop at five.

Face up is usually readiness rather than rudeness, and the two get confused all the time.

And the pocket people made their decision before they even sat down. The phone is not part of the table, so it never becomes part of the conversation.

Here is what I find genuinely interesting about this one.

Everybody in this little test is answering the same question.

Where does my attention live, and who gets it?

Face down is protecting this moment. Face up is staying reachable for somebody who matters. In the pocket is deciding once so you do not have to decide it fifty more times.

There is no right answer, and I have been all three at different points in my life.

Face up, face down, or never on the table, and what do you reckon that says about you?

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